Maybe I’m giving him a lot more credit than he deserves. I do believe that he has been a blessing to me. But I’ve in a sense created a monster. I’ve given him more control over my life than was necessary. Ecclesiastes 4:12 says
12 Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
the cord of three strands being the metaphor for the man, the woman, and God. At the center of it all we must all keep our focus on God and yet as humans, so many of us tend to lose sight of that when we get involved in a relationship. The focus is shifted from God to our significant other. Now I’m not saying that I believe one should forsake loving your husband or your wife. But your husband/wife should not have the kind of control over you that our Father in heaven does. It would be considered a form of idolatry to center your very existence on one person.
I feel that I’ve been doing exactly that. I feel like I’m trying to make something work that isn’t supposed to work. so now I’m left in a state of confusion. is it in God’s plan for me to be with this man? I’m that missing rib. But I don’t think he’s in need of a missing rib. God help me to see this situation for what it really is. not thru my eyes or anyone else’s but thru your eyes. Help me to make the right decisions so that I may overcome these hurdles. Maybe he’ll come around and maybe he won’t. Maybe he’s not at that place in his life. But please allow me to open my eyes.