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I have a million and one reasons why I should go out this weekend and get shitfaced.  But I’ll refrain from the latter.  My boss offered the option of relocating and I feel like it’s just what the doctor ordered.   However he’d like to me to relocate to the VA/DC area within 3 months.   I don’t even know how that’s going to happen seeing as I haven’t even started looking for an apartment out there and I’m not even sure how I would start.   So if anyone has some advice on where to find a nice little 1 bedroom in a decent area (preferably somewhere  I won’t get shot), then please by all means, drop me a line or 2 or 3….

Anyway it’s almost 10a.m and I should be washing my ass for work.  One can only hope I’m not slated to come in tomorrow.  That would be a real buzzkill.


Where do I begin?  I’ve been spending the last few days doing a lot of soul-searching.   I know that I’ve spent the better part of the last 8 years looking to fill a void.   I thought perhaps if I fell in love I’d find completion.  But love isn’t exactly what it’s all about.  I’m a spiritual person and I’d like to think there’s a divine purpose to be fulfilled by me.   I have an old soul and I can’t help but feel the fatigue setting in.   I feel like I’m running this perpetual hamsters wheel with no clue as to why I’m running and I know that I need to set more profound objectives and goals for myself.


So here it is I’ve made some post New Years Resolutions.  As of yesterday, I’ve started off with making what I would consider to be drastic changes.  


  1. I deleted both IMVU developer accounts.  (I know that seems trivial but I was developing an addiction).
  2. I ended the little tete-a-tete (for lack of a better word) between myself and CH.
  3. I’ve resumed the search for my trusty bible.
  4. I’m moving.  My company’s paying relocation expenses.


There are certain undeniable truths that I know within my spirit.  I know that I need to find solace and fellowship with other like-minded individuals.

I would say the most drastic move I’m about to  embark on is returning to the fold at Church.   

I don’t believe in religion per se.   Not organized, political religion or churches that cater to the people and not the souls of the people.


I don’t want to be around a group of individuals who are going to suck up to me and tell me that I’m right when I know there’s a chance I might be wrong.

I need a real Church.   A group of people who will provide the love and support I need when I resume my walk with God.  

I also know that I’m going to lose a lot of readers by my saying this and I know that I don’t care.   It’s 2009 and we’re so reliant on technology, science and politics, we see fit to push God out of the picture.   We’re in a modern world where the Love has grown cold and I am not in agreement with that.

I think that God is truly needed in this world and we spend too much time pushing him out as opposed to inviting him in. 


We justify our own actions by saying this is supposedly what God wants when truly beneath the surface we’ve taken control of the steering wheel and are quickly veering off into oblivion.


I’m letting him take the steering back.    So defiantly to the naysayers I aver that I do not care if this entry comes much to your chagrin.    I’m making changes and  I’m making them fast.   You can either roll with me, or get rolled over!!

*Waits for the followers list to diminish


inside I feel the onset of a new spiritual awakening.   I don’t want to be just another face in the crowd.  I want to stand out.  I want to be defiant and I want to show strength in my convictions.   Like i did when I was 17 years old when I wanted God to change my life for the better.   Somewhere down the line, it all got confused.   I let my trust in humans outweigh my faith in God.   Now like the rest of these lost souls, I wander the streets disenfranchised and desensitized.  So much so, that I can’t even stop to smell the roses in my concrete Jungle.   I live in suburbia but the lawn is dry.  There’s nothing but wind and frost to greet me.   Even when the sun comes out, I know things will never be the same.   So it takes a walk of faith to hold fast to the things that were once near and dear to my heart.   The innocence that bloomed behind the 17 year olds eyes as she stepped out into the world.   These things, I’ve taken for granted. 

How is it so Easy

I meant to post this as a comment in Alix’s blog.  But,  I have way too much to say.  Way too many questions to ask.


It’s been about a month since her and I broke up.  (Her being Aquafina).   I’m not as devastated about the break-up as I am about the events that followed subsequently.   Within 4 hours of our break-up she with someone else.  It’s not the fact that she moved on so fast that pains me.   It’s the fact that the person who she is with was a mutual friend of ours.   I remember succinctly asking her if she was cheating on me with that person.   Her response to me was no.   I’m 30 years old.  I may look naive but my date of birth was not 02-20-09.   She claimed she wasn’t cheating.   I wanted us to be friends when we broke up but after all this I can’t look at her the same anymore.   I can’t even bring myself to respect her because she lied blatantly.   The opportunity posed itself for her to come clean, yet she continued with the lies.    Much like Alix, I tend to ask myself from time to time, how is it for someone to break your hear so easily and not even flinch?   I had the opportunity to leave that relationship had she been forthright but I stuck around and put myself through unnecessary pain.  I kept trying to make the glove fit because i felt she deserved a chance and I felt that I didn’t need to push anyone else away.  Not Again.  Boy was I wrong!!?

Return to Sender

Dear Self,


You never really seem to learn from your past experiences.   It seems as if you truly are looking for fulfillment under the guise of love.   Actually,  I’ve come to the conclusion that you are looking for what you once had 6 years ago.   You’ve had a taste of it  and now you want more.   Maybe you should stop looking.   Maybe you should stop hoping that each and every moment will be a direct replica of the first.   







Yours Truly




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This Little Rainbow Clique

The older I get the more I have this disdain for surrounding myself with only LGBT individuals.   I know that sounds crazy but let me explain why. 

I’ve been on this scene for perhaps 8 years or so and I’m pretty much able to predict the actions of my gay/ lesbian counterparts.   So much so that it really doesn’t add any mystery to the situation.    Being of sound Sagittarian mind and body, it is in my nature to want to experience new things and to learn and grow spiritually.   I’m not finding that by only associating with one specific group in society.   I think that as a lesbian the objective should be to be accepted in society as an equal.   So I don’t really go out of my way to separate myself or ostracize myself from the heteros.   There are no rainbow decals all over my windshield or bumper nor do I wear these bright ass colors to work on a daily basis.   The fact that I am gay,does not make me any more special than the next individual.     So why is it that I feel as if we’ve created our own secret society and no one else is allowed in  (not even the bi’s)?

Which broaches an additional topic.   How is it that lesbians struggle so much for equality yet I’ve had the displeasure of encountering so many who do not like bi-sexuals?   How are we to ask for the very same rights that we deny others?   It seems totally asinine to me.   

True definition of Love…..

Valentines day finds me in solace.   I’ve never had time to actually be lonely.  But today I am.   I have friends, great ones at that.  But they’re all out having a drink with their significant other or celebrating v-day somehow.   I’ve really been thinking about how I approach relationships lately.   Someone once said that I was in love

with the concept of love.   Something that I’ve –until now–  completely denied.   Having acknowledged the latter, I’ve now changed my course.    I have an idea on how to keep my feelings in check, as they only seem to develop when there’s some semblance of "love” (i.e. infatuation) rearing it’s ugly head.   I’m starting to know the tell-tale signs and how to differentiate the two.   I had a recent conversation with someone about that one time in my life when I was truly in love.   It was perhaps the only time in my life that I couldn’t do without that person.   It was the one time in life that I was able to forgive the slights and lover her unconditionally.   I can’t say that I’ve had the opportunity to experience that again.   My heart tends to freeze quickly at the slightest inkling of disappointment.  Also among the tell-tale signs was the metamorphosis I’d undergone.  It was a positive change.  I was able to understand the full capacity of my love.   I don’t think that anyone will ever be able to break into my heart and make me feel the way I did then or experience the things I did then.   It was – to say the least – a spiritual eye opener.  And for that, I’m grateful.


I haven’t been here in awhile so I’m gonna catch you up on a quick brief synopsis. My Ballroom life is now null and void. I’ve had many a fond memory including a few bad ones. But now I’ve entered the next stage of my life. I’m a budding workaholic. I even had a girlfriend until January when she cheated on me. It was one of those textbook situations where, you meet a damsel-in-distress and you want to ride off with her into the sunset. Unfortunately that’s a fairytale. In the urban forest, a damsel in distress couldn’t recognize a prince (or princess) charming if he (or she) hit her in the face with a nine iron. Maybe I have a fucked up perspective of women who’ve previously been abused. But as past experience would have it, they tend to dish out the abuse as well. Needless to say she’s gone and I’m back to working my ass off and stressing about my career.


I’m a computer geek by nature (we get no love) and I’ve spent so much time at work and at home “working”, that I’ve now found it necessary to resume the hobbies of yesteryear. I got a not-so-new Nikon d50 off Ebay and now I’m going photo crazy. Anyway it’s 3 am here and I have to be up for work in the morning so I’ll update you folks later.